It’s lovers day today and just in case you do not believe in love anymore, I hope my story will change your mindset and help you open up your heart again to love and be loved.

This is a story of how I met the love of my life and got engaged, this is the story of how a genuine friendship blossomed into a beautiful love story ☺️ and most importantly this is a story of how God came through for me “earlier than expected”

So for the sake of this story I will be referring to my fiancé as “B”

B has been my facebook friend since 2017, even though we never had a conversation until early last year. He would like my pictures, comment on my posts 😂 especially my articles, write ups and stories. I actually noticed him for real one day in 2019 when I wrote an article about honesty and loyalty, how selfish some humans can be and how we shouldn’t let anyone treat us as a back up plan.

His comment on my post that day really drew me to him, it was the way he empathized with the post, it showed that this one has a beautiful and caring heart and some of the things he said really touched me and we had some little conversations in the comment section but that was about all of it. I remember checking him out that day, going through his profile and all but since uncle never reached out via dm, I just faced my front, in my mind I was like “toh, let him be crushing all by himself na since he doesn’t want to reach out” 😂😂 I was very much single at the time, freshly out of an emotionally abusive relationship and wasn’t even thinking about entering another one. I was in my healing process/journey and Love Realities had just started off and after that day I don’t think we had such moment again.

Fast forward to early last year (5years later), that post came up as a facebook reminder and when I went through the comment section and saw his comment, I was like “it’s been a while I noticed this guy’s likes and comments” even though I had stopped writing for a very long while, I think it was between 2020 to 2023. I was trying to build my business and then work and relocation came up. That was the longest writer’s block I have ever had! 😞

I had to buzz him on messenger just to say Hi, it was just an innocent checking up o but B thought I was an impostor 😂😂… It pained me terribly that I entered man’s dm and he thought I wasn’t real, anyway I told him I just wanted to check up and this is what I saw that prompted me and ended the conversation there.

The next day, B buzzed me and apologized. Said he was having a very long day and was actually scammed 2 days proir on messenger so he was just on red alert, well I told him it was fine I only wanted to say hi and nothing more and quite frankly it was a serious turn off for me so I wasn’t even interested in having any further conversation anymore. But he kept on buzzing me and checking up more frequently after that and at some point, I let down my guard a bit.

So that was how we started talking on and off. PS : We were both in a relationship at the time so that was completely out of the question, even though mine was a bit unstable🤦🏽‍♀️(when it comes to relationships, I have actually seen shege promax despite being a lover girl and Jesus baby 😩)

B and I became really cool chat buddies after some months and our friendship eventually left messenger and graduated to whatsapp.

We would talk about our relationship ups and downs, past traumas, upbringing, family and all. At some point my so called relationship was gradually hitting rock bottom but my coconut loved up head and heart won’t let me see the glaring red flags!

B on the other hand would encourage me to hold on and be patient, until one day I actually asked him whose side he was on 🤦🏽‍♀️ because how would I be feeling terrible, heart broken and completely drained and you would be telling me not to give up and hold on 😩

B wasn’t left out in the love gbas gbos, at some point he said he would never love again. It’s how we will keep on consoling one another each time we are down for me 😂😂😂 because just like me, he is also a lover boy ☺️ whose heart has been trampled on a few times too.

One thing that stood out in our friendship was the way he would always pray for me, always wishing me well and encouraging me. When it comes to my passion, B was and still is my biggest fan and supporter. We connected on different levels and it was easy to flow with him.

B was always there when I wanted to rant, laugh, vent, cry, complain about everything and anything and then we’ve never met physically for one day.

He made it known eventually that he liked me but he doesn’t want to be the reason my relationship will end instead he will continue loving me from afar. I thought about it, thought about the distance and then the fact that I didn’t really see him in that light, for me B is my buddy and that was it. Even though he checked most of my boxes cos during the course of our friendship I noticed that this man was just different. He’s a good guy, good is an understatement. He’s a Christian and has a relationship with God, he even attends home cell on Saturdays (this one shocked me because how many young guys do I know that attends home cell 🙆🏽‍♀️) and to crown it all he’s also an NSPPDian.

But then my heart was just in a different place. You know sometimes God will bring your answer to you but because you are so distracted, you will not see that your answered prayer is right there in front of you 😨. Most times we are expecting our miracle in a different form or in another package or a shiny container with our names boldly written on it! But then, God’s ways are never our ways! 🥹

One day I was having a conversation with my platform leader about my relationship and she said to me “Emmanuella, you know you have a ministry in this and the devil will fight you on this aspect of your life, you need to be very careful not to make mistakes”. That honestly struck me because I knew where she was coming from.

Eventually in August, my heart was finally shattered into pieces. And to be honest I saw it coming but I refused to accept it early enough. The thing about deep lovers like us is that we always want to make it work even when we are practically bleeding out 🤦🏽‍♀️

Today I can boldly say that God delivered me. You see this saying that “who wants to be with you, will not stress you” I’ve never seen a truer statement!!!
Yes I had other male friends around me but somehow I was too blinded to know I was being manipulated because I so much wanted things to work out. Only people close to me and my family knew what I was really going through. I remember my friend asking me what’s up one day and I was like, “Nne eh, I’m done praying about marriage… I know God has answered me and I am just waiting for a manifestation”.

I was honestly exhausted and tired of trying to make it work by myself. I intentionally stopped praying about marriage and that was crazy faith because despite being hurt, I knew that I had to trust God completely and stop trying to do His work for Him. Choosing people based off my own will and intentions instead of His will and desires for me.

To cut the looooong story short, after my disappointment…
Sometime in October, after my birthday B said he was going to come to Ph in December I was excited that I would finally meet my friend.
B and I got even closer after my birthday last year and even though I still didn’t think I would be in a relationship with him, I started to pay more attention to certain things, we had deeper conversations, I realized we shared a lot of values especially about family, raising Godly and wholesome children. Our visions were just aligning and that was when I also realized that he actually grew up in the same neighbourhood with me, even though some years apart 😂.
I found out that we had a whole lot in common. We even share the same English names ☺️🥰

Fast forward to when I came back to Ph from Enugu for my leave in November, I fell sick and was very down. I was still talking with B, that period on NSPPD Pastor Jerry was declaring that we would get our “earlier than expected” testimony.

B and I were already on the altar, so this particular week he would say things like, we are going to see soon o, earlier than expected. I would just laugh it off because he already said December and to be honest I wasn’t even ready to see anyone plus I was sick.

One of the days I got back from work and was really exhausted and tired, I was even too tired to eat and I was talking to this young man of a video call and then he asked when my off day is for that week and I told him it was the next day and he was like “I’m coming to Ph to see you tomorrow”. I looked at him and was like, you’re not serious. He jokingly said I should drop my house address and I did jokingly. I told him that I’m going to be very busy the next day because I had a lot of clothes to wash and I had to clean the house and I would still go to the hospital to take injections so he shouldn’t come o because I won’t even have time to see him. He said no wahala and the conversation ended.

Men and brethren, on this fine Thursday morning. I had just finished spreading the last cloth I washed and I came inside to arrange the house, next thing my phone rang and it was B… I picked the call and the next thing I heard was “I’m at your gate” 😂😂😂
First of all I laughed because I thought he was joking and then he goes “shey your gate is black” and he mentioned my house number and I was like, “it’s a lie! it’s just because I told you the color of my gate last night”
It was when he now mentioned the color of my building that I knew that really this young man was at my gate! I immediately went into a panic mode 😅
I scanned my room, looked at myself and I was like Kai my village people o 🙆🏽‍♀️😂😂.

First off, my hair was a mess, I haven’t arranged my room yet and God I can’t be having a visitor looking like this 🤦🏽‍♀️.

I was so tensed and honestly confused 😕, like how did this guy come all the way to Ph and I didn’t get the slightest clue. Holyspirit eh, you would have given me an indicator na🤦🏽‍♀️😅.
Well I dressed up and went out to meet him, las las na all back I do I no kill person and I am still a fine girl regardless 😂😂
I went out to the gate and there he was, standing all cute and my heart sha melted at that point even though I was somehow forming angry that he came unannounced 😂😂. But at least he looked good and his dressing was 💯.

I was still in panic mode when we came into the house and he was laughing and telling me to relax 😂😂.. In my mind I was like which kind expensive joke be this na 🤣. I was finally able to put myself together, cleaned up the house while we were gisting, took my shower and ate. He was fasting so he didn’t eat with me 😊

We went to the hospital together that day for my injection as it was the last day and then went out for lunch.
I honestly didn’t think he was going to come and that singular act gave him a serious upper hand. It meant a lot that he would take that step and when he asked me to be his girlfriend later that day, I couldn’t help but say yes 😅

And that was how we went from being friends to being in a relationship and this completely finished man has made me smile even harder every single day since that day ☺️… It finally made perfect sense why it didn’t work out with the others.

Fast forward to January he officially asked me to marry him and it was the easiest yes I ever said!
Today I have not just a fiancé but a best friend, supporter, prayer partner, gist partner, my personal stylist 😂😂 etc.
God blessed me with everything I never thought I needed and even much more.

Love is a beautiful thing especially when you have the right person by your side, when God is the center of it all and when you are patient enough to wait on God.

This is me telling you for free that God indeed makes all things beautiful in His own time so don’t give up! Open your heart up, pray and desire good things and it will definitely come to you and most importantly serve God!

And while you are at it, invest in yourself. Become the best version of yourself. Don’t dwell on the hurt you must have gone through in the past instead use it to your own advantage and rise from it.

Ask God for the spirit of discernment so you won’t miss your kairos moment too. Trust me, He knows the desires of your heart, He knows you more than you know yourself. Trust Him, Trust His leading and His timing.

There are a whole lot of different parts to this story and B has his own side of the story which is equally an interesting one and I hope he gets to share it one day 😀

I know God is going to use it to bless someone so I will keep sharing and unfolding as time goes on. God is in my story and I cannot keep it to myself. I pray He comes through for you too but until then Love, Live and Love a little more ❤️

Happy Valentine’s Day people 🥰 and don’t forget to spread love wherever you go today.

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